Laura Perrins: Girls don’t have to be humiliated by drunken boys. They can just say No

Can you be targeted for humiliation by invitation? This is the question that ran through my mind when reading yet another report about the sexual sewer of Oxbridge ‘drinking clubs’.

In The Times we are told of the humiliating activities that take place at these clubs.

We are told: “It is common practice to dare women at Cambridge drinking society initiations to strip to their underwear as boys drink shots from their cleavages.”

Further “a woman student at Oxford who was recently invited to an exclusive dinner by a men’s group said: “Some of these drinking societies solely exist to get girls so drunk they don’t know what they are doing.

“There were about five girls and 15 boys in this oak-panelled room. It was clear they intended to get us as drunk as possible.

"We were made to down glass after glass of wine and eat the food on our plates not using any hands — it was degrading. They deliberately target certain girls on campus to invite.”

Now when I read this report it made be angry. It made me angry that there are young women out there – the elite, the best of the best if they are at Oxbridge - willing to degrade themselves to this extent. And that they do it by consent.

If we read the reports carefully, it is clear that these women are willingly attending these private parties (not pubs or clubs but private parties).

They are ‘invited’ and ‘dared’ to strip to their underwear. It is 'clear' that they will be encouraged to drink to excess.

So if women know of these humiliating practices why do they go to these private ‘parties’ where they will be encouraged to get drunk beyond control? How, after forty years of feminism, has it come to this?

The question must be asked – why would any woman attend one of these private events in the first place?

Is it because young women these days are told that ‘anything goes’ and that they should just ‘loosen up’ and be one of the lads.

Is it because that they have been told all their lives by feminists that modesty is dead and only for those who have surrendered to the ‘patriarchy’?

If you are woman who thinks this is great and that we all should just loosen up, be sure to mail over your thank you notes to liberals.

The reality is, ladies, that as you are being ‘invited’ to these parties you are completely free to say No.

And No is the only suitable reply to these pathetic sados. You could add an expletive if you wish, but personally I feel this is unnecessary.

No – and this cannot be said enough – is a full sentence. I say it frequently myself as I find it empowering.

And trust me it will come in handy in 10 years time should you become a mother. No, I do not want to come to your stupid party as I have about a thousand other things in the world I could do instead.

Should you find yourself at a loose end, and you need to be reminded about all the other things you could do other than attend a party where you will you be humiliated or perhaps worse here are some.

You could study; cook; do your nails or hair. In fact, you could meet your friends and discuss how pathetic the members of the drinking clubs are; you could discuss the issues of the day; or, you could join one of the many other clubs on campus that do not exist to humiliate women.

Or you could just watch TV. It is not hard. Just say No.

Laura Perrins